Yes, the dreaded “V” Day is here again. Oh joy! The one day of the year when lovers profess their undying love with chocolate, hearts, flowers, teddy bears, and if you’re lucky, a sparkly bobble. Unless of course you are a member of Heartbreak Hotel like me and you view Valentine’s Day as a commercialized fake holiday invented by the greeting card industry to sucker people into creating romantic evenings for their significant others. Call me cynical, but we all know it’s true whether you are in love or mending a broken heart, Valentine’s Day is SO overrated!
To be honest, I never really liked Valentine’s Day, even when I was married for 20 years. Inevitably we are always left with slight disappointment wishing our significant other would have put a little more effort into showing us how much they care. A card and box of chocolates….just doesn’t cut it. Sorry, but you know its true. So now that I’m divorced, Valentine’s Day is just an ugly reminder that I’m alone and I would love to have someone give me a stupid little card and a box of chocolates stuck to a five dollar teddy bear. It’s been almost 4 years since my divorce and at first I was happy to be free for the first time in my adult life. Now, after countless dates with men that were no where near “boyfriend material” I ask myself where is my Valentine? Where is my knight in shining armor…my soul mate?? Certainly, not on Tinder or any of those other dating sights claiming to help you find your next true love. I want to create a character that is the equivalent to the Grinch and Ebenezer Scrooge for Valentine’s Day. Bah Humbug! (I think I might be on to something here!)
Lonely souls could get together for an anti-Valentine’s Day cocktail party and hit the crap out of a piñata shaped as this character like in the movie “Valentine’s Day”! I love it! I think this may be my next business venture…
Anyway, I digress. It is so fitting that I started this blog the day before “V” Day. I didn’t even plan it! I woke up coughing my lungs out with from a nasty chest cold and didn’t want to leave my bed on the coldest day of the year (with 30 below wind chills) so I figured now is a good time to start my blog! So here I am, like many of you, wishing Valentine’s Day would just go away, but still hoping that by this time next year I will be head over heals in love with a tall, dark, funny, caring, trustworthy, successful man of my dreams. That’s not too much to ask…is it?
For all my fellow divorcee’s out there, I’m with you! I will be blogging about my experiences with getting through divorce and navigating through the “new normal” and I would love to hear from you. Sharing your ups and downs through the journey of divorce really helps the healing begin, so lets take this journey together.