Cautiously Optimistic
September 8, 2019I realized something today as I was hiking with my sister (aka, life coach). I had an epiphany that when it comes to dating, I have been repeating the same pattern for years. I’m like a hamster on a wheel spinning in circles getting nowhere and then when I’m exhausted with the whole dating process I hop off the wheel and go hide in a corner of my cage burying my head in woodchips. You see, being alone is easy. Lonely at times but easy. Relationships are hard. Relationships are scary. That constant anticipation of whether the other person will…
Finding Connection in a Lonely Dating World
I’ve been grappling with the idea that humans cannot be truly happy without a deeper connection with another human being. I happen to look up a study in Psychology Today and wouldn’t you know they sited Brene’ Brown (the author…
Plenty of Fish or Flounder?
Against my better judgment—I did it again. I know I said I would never go on an online dating site after the last disaster, but I caved. I blame it on all these podcasts I listen to about getting out…
Trust the Process
I try to live by the words, “Trust the process.” This is true in relationships and in career. When you get to be my age, you realize that your greatest lessons in life come from your greatest failures. Well, I’ve…
Just Ask
Call it “writer’s block” or avoidance— either way, I haven’t been writing lately because I’m overwhelmed. All this time I thought that once I got out of the house and found a job that would allow me to pay the…
The Quest to Find Emotional Intelligence
I spend almost every Sunday morning watching the latest episode of Super Soul Sunday. To some of you that may seem corny or a little too ‘whoo whoo’ for you, but for me, every time I watch it, there is…
Dating is Like the Circus
This dating thing is like going to the circus. You enter the arena and you never know what you’re gonna get. You might see a lot of freaks that make you want to run, your occasional trapezes artist that may…
Spring Fever Strikes Again
It’s here again! That spring fever itch. That time of year when our biochemistry or biological makeup kicks in and forces us out of hibernation and we yearn for love again. Maybe it’s the birds and the bees literally and…
Leaving the Past Behind
Have you ever had one of those days when you feel like you just should have stayed in bed? Well, it was one of those days for me. I woke up in a great mood. I’m finally in my new…
Emotional Wreck or Work in Progress?
Lately, I find myself ridiculously emotional. I honestly can’t stand myself. I’ll be out having a good time with friends and someone will ask me a question about my past or current situation and I’m instantly in tears pouring out…
Why You’re Alone On Valentine’s Day…Again
The dreaded day is here again. The day where us lonely singles are wondering why another year has gone by and we still find ourselves without a Valentine. Since my divorce, I can’t help but think—maybe next year I’ll be…